Will My Ex Come Back to Me?
You ask yourself, “Will My Ex Come Back to Me?” Getting your ex to come back to you can seem like an impossible feat. But its possible to have your ex come back to you. Stop agonizing and continue reading this article. We will explore this possibility of your ex coming back.
First thing is if have to ask yourself honestly, do you really want your ex back? Now, this may seem like an obvious answer, but you have to take time to decide if your ex is the right person for you. Remember, they are the one who felt like ending it with you. Do you really want to be with that type of person? What were the reasons for the break up? Do you think its worth pursuing?
The Right Moves
In order to get your ex to come back to you, you have to be sure that you have the right opening move to get them to open up to you. How do you do this? Well, human nature prevails and people always want what they can’t have.
Same goes with your ex. To get your ex to be interested in you again, you have to NOT be always available to their beckon call. That means, you should keep you conversations short to 30 seconds if they happen to call you. And it also means that you should NOT be calling them day and night during the breakup phase.
But doing so, you create a distance between you two and you establish that you don’t want to have the label “friends”. So to avoid the dreaded friend zone, you must adhere to the no-contact rule for the first few weeks. It will be hard and hardly bearable but it’s a MUST in order to get your ex back.
The Right Setting
Another important ingredient to getting your ex to come back to you, is the right setting. Tension may have been high during the breakup and you two might be headed back together. But you have to have the right setting to have everything come into play. Yes, my friend, you need to be in a casual non-threatening environment that you happen to stumble across one another. This means that you don’t lose sleep over seeing them or overly obsess the who, what where of meeting them. If you happen to be in the same place and them, cool. You must play it cool and calm. Just keep everything light and typical. Don’t give away too much info and definitely, don’t be rude or negative.
Keep the past in the past and everything on a “friendly” tone. Your ex might be with their new person, but don’t let that bother you. You are the Zen of coolness and it should show.
The Right Time
As they say, timing is everything. When it comes to making up with your ex, you need to have some time pass for each of you to find value or rekindle an appreciation for one another. Some say it’s a month or so. It all depends on YOU. You have to ask yourself if you can handle it and NOT melt/crumble when you see your ex. As stated above you need to be cool. A good rule of thumb is about 4-6 weeks to settle in your new label as single and you should have started purging your old habit and replace them with new positive ones.
Remember in all of this, you control your fate and you are in control on how you react to situations. So, its absolutely possible for your ex to come back to you, but only when you have given yourself enough time to grow on your own. You control your surroundings and you will then know your answer to; “Will My Ex Come Back to Me?”